book review: Harmless Like You by Rowan Hisayo Buchanan


HARMLESS LIKE YOU by Rowan Hisayo Buchanan
WW Norton, 2017


Harmless Like You is the multigenerational story of Yuki, growing up in New York in the 1960s, and her son, Jay, who she abandoned as a baby. Their stories move forward together in parallel timelines, one beginning in 1968 and one beginning in 2016, culminating in a reunion that we know is coming ever since the prologue. In the meantime we explore the reasons that led to Yuki’s abandonment of Jay, and how Jay has learned to cope with her desertion, especially as he now has a newborn infant himself.

I have a lot of thoughts about this book – not all of them good, despite the 4 star rating. I’ll start with the downsides: (1) The book begins with a very hasty plot point which to me reeks of a plot device (Yuki’s parents agreeing to let her live in New York at 16 years old with a friend they’d only met once, while they go back to Japan to live – there are absolutely reasons for a family to do something this radical, but those reasons go mostly unexamined here). (2) It took me ages to get invested in Yuki – I think the third-person POV really serves to hold her at an arm’s length from the reader. (3) The resolution is a bit too neat, and there’s some abrupt character development at the end which to me felt unearned.

But when it’s good, it’s great. When Yuki’s personality begins to develop (starting with a really beautiful and heartrending scene where she sees an exhibit at the Whitney and is overcome with sadness), she’s a wonderful and complex protagonist, whose journey is at times devastating. What surprised me though is how utterly brilliant I found Jay’s character to be. Here we have a pair of characters who don’t want to be parents, but they each find themselves in that role anyway. Jay is not a particularly palatable character – he loves his bald cat more than his newborn baby – and while some readers may think he’s a monster, Hisayo Buchanan doesn’t pass judgement in a way that I found sort of refreshing.

This is one of those books where I think I liked the overall impression it left me with more than I liked reading the book itself. It’s the kind of book that elucidates harsh truths about parenthood, growing up, art, and identity, and it leaves you feeling sort of sad and hollow – but for whatever reason, that’s a feeling I like. This is one of those thought-provoking books whose characters will probably stay with me.

15 thoughts on “book review: Harmless Like You by Rowan Hisayo Buchanan

    • Thank you! That’s a great point. I find it’s especially interesting with books like this, because I think being held at arm’s length from the main character may have been the point…? Especially as her sections were written in 3rd person and the other narrator’s were in 1st person, it felt at least somewhat intentional.

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  1. That’s an interesting point about some books being more successful in eliciting a certain feeling than they are in being ‘great reads’. I think we all encounter a few of those in our time. Nonetheless, this sounds interesting!

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    • It’s a strange feeling to be reading a book and mostly thinking ‘meh’ and then you put it down and your gut reaction is ‘I really liked that.’ Like, how do I reconcile these things?!

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  2. This is one of those books that I have been going back and forth on whether I want to read them or not. I nearly bought it in Dubai Airport (which btw had an impressive collection of interesting books for a bookshop that small).

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